Heard of Ho'oponopono? Huh?
One amazing tool I learned in my NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) course is called Ho'oponopono. Ho'oponopono comes from ancient Hawaiian healers and means "correction". Though there are different versions of how Ho'oponopono works, the tool I was taught is also known as "cord cutting."
Cord cutting is a quick visualization exercise that can help you release negative emotions with specific people by allowing yourself to forgive them and they to forgive you. Though it is a simple exercise, it can be very powerful. You can use it with your spouse or significant other, your children, your parents, or anyone else you may need to change your energy with.
I recently used Ho'onoponopono with an acquaintance. This individual commented to me that they had heard that my son's last birthday party "didn't go well." They were referring to something I had said to their spouse about how hard it was having a birthday party around Christmas time, due to everyone's schedules.
The comment bothered me because it felt like this person was putting me down. Normally I would dwell and stew on it for days, thinking about what it meant, why they said it, how "mean" they were, etc. I'd be upset, angry and judgmental. But as soon as it started to bother me, I decided to do a cord cutting with this individual.
I went home that evening and took about three minutes to do the exercise. I felt good afterward, but what was even better was that I completely let go of my negative emotions, and when I thought of that individual, it felt like a blank slate. I didn't have any feelings of anger toward them, and the comment they made no longer bothered me at all.
I'm grateful I learned this exercise, and if you feel this might benefit you, I'd be happy to guide you through the visualization!